The Importance of Finding Your Voice

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The world needs to hear from you.

Everyone has a story that needs to be shared.

Someone, somewhere, needs to hear what you have to say.

It’s a Platform, Not a Stage

These are common encouragements found easily on the web. Just Google Up that first quote and see what pops up. While I appreciate the sentiment, this is not that article. I’m certainly not here to bash that perspective, but I’d like to encourage you to look at it from a different angle.

  1. I would go way too far in my pushback, and attack whoever was on the other side.

Standing Up To The Stain Guy (or, finding my confrontation voice)

A couple of years ago, we had a fence stained. The guy came by and gave us a quote, and it was a lot of money for us to spend, but it had to be done. The fence guy was very, very proud of his work. During the couple of times he came by to provide a quote and show us our stain options, he told us all about how he was booked up all the way down the coast and he was the premier fence guy in that area.

I don’t want a ‘renewal stain’, I’m not happy with the first stain. That’s not a deal for me.

Then, and this is the “finding your voice” moment for me, he said,

I’ve had so many compliments on this fence. Everybody who sees it loves this fence.

To which I replied,

I don’t care. This is MY fence. You sold me on the quality of your work and this wasn’t done well. It doesn’t matter to me that people drive by and tell you they like MY fence. I want it done the way you said you were going to do it.

Short story long, he redid the fence. And I found some of my voice.

Finding a New Voice

We also may have to find a new voice for ourselves as we move throughout our lives.

We Need To Find OUR Voice

It doesn’t have to be through confrontation. We need to hear ourselves speaking love into our relationships, even when it feels weird or awkward, so that the next time we want to say something special to our spouse, children, or friends, it doesn’t feel so weird or awkward. And eventually, it just feels normal.

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Coach, Teacher, Author, Encourager. - I write words of encouragement focused on personal growth, parenting, and leadership. www.bryanhendley.com

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Bryan Hendley

Bryan Hendley

Coach, Teacher, Author, Encourager. - I write words of encouragement focused on personal growth, parenting, and leadership. www.bryanhendley.com