Consider the metaphor in which your teenage daughter is a swimmer, you are the pool in which she swims, and the water is the broader world.
Like any good swimmer, your daughter wants to be out playing, diving, or splashing around in the water. And like any swimmer, she holds on to the edge of the pool to catch her breath after a rough lap or getting dunked too many times.
In real life, it looks like this: your daughter has been so busy spending time with friends, activities, or schoolwork that you feel as though you might need to…
Woody Guthrie’s incredible New Year’s resolutions
Someone more talented, and with a larger audience than me (though I may still try) should do an article on all of these. These are incredible. #18: Stay Glad. #19: Keep Hoping Machine Running. But for now, I want to take a look at #33:
Wake Up And Fight
Woody Guthrie, for those who may not know, was a singer and songwriter in the ’30s, ’40s, and ’50s. …
Yesterday a story I wrote got 61 claps (and counting)!!!
If you are big time on Medium, two things are probably true:
Nevertheless, I am excited about my 61 claps. I even had a couple of people comment on my article, and we had some genuine exchange. It was great.
Again, please excuse my excitement about the small steps, but that’s where I am. …
Verbs, verbs, action words, tell you what to do…
Years and years ago, while teaching elementary school, one of the other grade levels, during their yearly musical, sang this song and I still can’t get it out of my head. Interestingly, this is the only part I can remember. Oh, they also sang a song that was tuned to Rhianna’s Umbrella, but I can’t remember how that tied into first grade Language Arts standards.
Recently I’ve been reminded about the importance of the verbs in our lives leading the way to the nouns that we want to become. The challenge…
A common phrase, with many uses. I’ll put a few here, but I’m sure you can think of some more.
Exasperated kid to mom: “I’m doing my best!” (In my house, this kid is about to get into trouble)
Tired employee: “I’m doing the best that I can.”
Parent trying to encourage kid: “Don’t worry, all you can do is the best you can do.”
Parent to nervous kid: “Hey, just go out there and do your best.”
Frustrated anyone: “I don’t know what else to do, I’m doing my best.”
Parent to teacher: “We are doing the best we…
What will today bring forth vs. What will I bring forth today?
Which one do you choose to focus on?
Call it the Universe, fate, or just the decisions of other people, but things will happen each day that we have little to no control over.
The day brings forth things and then we respond and react.
Opportunities present, obstacles pop up, and people are people. Then, we have to react.
We have very little control over what the day brings forth. We can schedule and plan and have an idea about how the outline of the day may go…
I grew up in an environment that encouraged helping. Probably many of us did, when it comes to some basics. We help with our siblings, we help get the groceries in from the car, we help clean up the toys we played with.
If you were the older sibling, perhaps you were given an extra helping of helping. You may have been asked to help with watching your younger brother, change your sister’s diapers, or help clean up a mess that you didn’t create.
Lately, I’ve been thinking about several ways that helping can hurt.
We see this many times…
I went on the search for something real.
Traded what I know for how I feel.
-The Avett Brothers
Our emotions, our current state, our feelings are very powerful. In fact, for most of us, they are likely what drive many of our decisions and actions, some of them terribly important.
One of the reasons that our New Year’s resolutions have a failure rate between 80 and 90 percent, depending on the source, is due to our feelings winning out.
We don’t feel like going to the gym today. We don’t feel like cooking at home. We don’t feel like…
*This is an excerpt from a book on parenting that I’m working on. With many friends in the coaching world, I thought I’d share this short story.
Before I got into college coaching, I spent several years coaching at the high school level, riding on hot, uncomfortable school buses, eating greasy fast food in the dark on the way home after games, and putting in long hours in the gym with the players, before, during, and after practice. When I got to college, the food got a little better, but the hours increased. …
Once or twice a month, my dad and I will go to breakfast together somewhere around town. We usually go to the same two or three places, and every time we go, the people in the restaurant know my dad. Sometimes he’ll even tell me stories about the waitress’s life or some extra detail that the average customer wouldn’t know.
And oftentimes, the waitress will ask him if he wants his usual, or ask a question about his order that only someone who had taken his order many times would know to ask. …